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How to Protect Your Energy When the World is Falling Apart Around You

Hi!

Wow. Lots of emotions out there right now, huh? I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to manage all of these feelings without totally imploding and while keeping a sense of peace and calm around me. I figured out a few things that help me in the management of my own energy, and that’s what I’m sharing here today. Oh, and there are references to Hocus Pocus and Harry Potter, and I make laser noises at one point, so it’s a fun ride.

First, some background.

The Curse of the Ambiverted Empath

I work full-time in a restaurant, in a role that’s highly focused on first impressions and the guest experience.

Aside from the service of food and beverage, a “soft skill” of mine is the management of everyone else’s energy and expectations. From guests to colleagues, my job includes creating and amplifying positive experiences while simultaneously preventing and/or diffusing negative ones.

As an ambivert-y empathic-type, this can be simultaneously invigorating while also having the potential to be totally overwhelming. The energy of the room can fuel me (yay! Humans are beautiful and nuanced and complex!) just as much as it can overstimulate me (hello, I can feel all of your feelings and whoaaaaa that’s too many feelings).

A colleague suggested at one point that I find a way to manage my own energy so as not to let the energy of literally every other person throw me off my game.

I explained this to my own health coach (spoiler alert: she’s now a super bad ass shaman) at the time.

First of all, I have to acknowledge how much I appreciate her validation of my existence as a highly-sensitive human who genuinely cares about the well-being of her coworkers and the experience of her guests.

I am! I do!

Her approach wasn’t to change me by encouraging me to dull that shine or to close that openness.

I know that this open-heart of mine is one of my super powers.

She did too. So the question became, how do I channel that energy and keep a calm and open heart in the process?

She, magical shamanananan that she is, equipped me with my very own Golden Bubble.

Hocus Pocus

This, a sparkly beautiful ball of gold light I could wrap around me and protect me from the energy of everything around me. I could see energy and interact with energy, but I didn’t have to let it in my field.

So, I employed that Golden Bubble during every shift. I still do. It’s one of my favorite tools. I don’t even have to close my eyes (probably a good thing, being in a restaurant and all)!

I just imagine my magic sparkly fingers conjuring up a Golden Bubble big enough to protect my lil’ frame, and it follows me around. I can see and read your energy, but I don’t have to absorb it. I can deflect it!

Pew pew pew!

Pew! Pew!

But also, real life.

The Golden Bubble, as it turns out, is incredibly useful in every day life just as much as it is in restaurant life.

Sometimes (this week amirite?), The World seems to be going to absolute shit all around us. Some days are hard. Some weeks are excruciating. Our hearts are breaking. Our endurance is tested.

But! I am here to tell you that you — yes, you! — also have the power to tap into your own Golden Bubble. You have the power, nay, the responsibility!, to protect your energy as we go all Order of the Phoenix on this bish.

I’m not saying we ignore or numb the pain, or that we don’t take a stand or that we look the other way from injustice or oppression. Not at all. But in the spirit of “secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others,” we have each got to be in a place of our own stability as we prepare to take this on.

I, personally, find myself very easily derailed (spiritually, mentally, emotionally) when I let myself fall down the various rabbit holes of talking points and whatabouts.

But I find myself empowered, vocal, strong, resilient!, when I have a Golden Bubble in place, when I can ground my own energy in truth, love, compassion, and kindness.

So, beyond the really useful visual aid of existing in a beautiful gold ball of light (it’s nice here), here are 5 actual, tangible ways you can protect your energy when the world is going to literal shit.

1. Know what grounds you and do it daily.

For me, this is meditation.

Yoga helps. Amplifies it. A good strong workout helps. Journaling helps. Laying off the wine helps (ugh, I know, literal buzzkill).

But what I can come back to every single day in any moment ever, is a meditation practice. This connects me to my Self, the Consciousness, God, the Goddess, the Universe, whatever you want to call her. This connects me to the knowledge that there’s no reason why we can’t fight injustice, we can’t oppose oppression, we can’t call out bigotry, no reason in the whole Universe that we can’t do this and also do it with some fucking love, man.

2. Stay hydrated.

Seriously! When we’re dehydrated, we are tired, groggy, unfocused, and exhausted. Staying hydrated keeps our minds sharp, our bodies functioning, our digestion digesting, and our energy up. We’re gonna need it to smash the patriarchy. Hydration! For feminism! And human rights! And common decency!

3. Have a pressure-release plan.

What do you do when you can’t STAND it any longer? When you’re so angry or so frustrated or so exhausted? Is it cardio? Church? Whiskey (not recommended long-term, but I do understand the effectiveness of it).

Have an escape plan, one that allows you to get that energy OUT without amplifying it. Hike, run, crush some weights at the gym, call a friend or family member and vent or cry.

Find or create an outlet.

4. Know your limits. AND HONOR THEM.

Only then can you really start to push them.

For me, this is knowing when to walk away from an argument that’s going nowhere. When we’re not listening to each other anymore and everyone’s just arming themselves with the next talking point or “fact check” post, it’s over. Walk away.

Know when you’re not going to “win” (spoiler alert: there is no winning) an argument, and re-focus your energy. These conversations can go in circles forever. You will not change their mind. Say your piece, keep your peace, and let it go.

Put your energy elsewhere.

5. Put your energy somewhere.

Put it FORWARD. It is dizzying to waste your time in futile arguments, but it is productive to put that energy into doing something for the positive good, for the forward movement.

For some of us, that’s being very,very vocal.

Dropping knowledge bombs on the Twitterverse because you have the platform to do so and your perspective and experience and hot take on it all really does influence people and contribute to actual dialogue and/or calling out the bullshit.

For others, it’s money. Donations. Like, “I’m not sure what I can do alone, but here’s this organization that is strong and has momentum and here take my money!”

Pick your cause(s) and throw your money at them HARD (if you can).

For me? Right now. It’s being visible.

I’ve sat on the sidelines for a real long time, and I have watched the world around me argue and fight and have largely stayed out of it for fear of ruffling feathers.

:::ruffles feathers:::

As it turns out, I’d rather be uncomfortable and standing for something than uncomfortable and complicit.

“To remain neutral is to side with the oppressor.”

For me, it’s not about winning an argument or being able to Politifact-check the most talking points. It’s being in a position where I simply speak up.

For me, visibility is about clarifying my own thoughts and words and then saying those things out loud, proudly, even in (especially in) sight of people who will disagree. It’s about working really, really hard to do these things in love, compassion, kindness, and patience.

Wrap it up, D.

So, to recap: five actual, tangible ways to protect your energy as you bravely, confidently stand up for what you believe in (whether that’s human rights or food label transparency or whether or not a hot dog is a sandwich (no) or the dress is blue or gold (both) or it’s Laurel or Yanni (Yanni)):

    1. Know what grounds you and do it daily.
    2. Stay hydrated.
    3. Have a pressure release plan.
    4. Know your limits.
    5. Push those limits.

No, go forth and smash! I like to think of my Golden Bubble as a sort of Sonic the Hedgehog force.

What’s your Golden Bubble? What do you do to stay sane amid chaos?

14 thoughts on “How to Protect Your Energy When the World is Falling Apart Around You”

PoppaKing

State your case and move on. Two Thumbs Up!

Create/Enjoy (@SuzannahStanley)

Those are really great tips. With lots of emotion can come extra pain so some of us need to remember to do more of this!

Waz

Your tips are all spot on, and everyone can relate to this in one way or another. I’ll have to keep them in mind because lately, I’ve been all over the place. Thanks so much for sharing!

Erin

Thanks so much for sharing these tips – Especially needed when the world gets super crazy around us!

Summer

Insightful point about staying hydrated to protect energy. Never thought of that!

Kelsey

Oh this is so good. I like the way you shared your story, practical advice, and humor seamlessly.

Catherine @ To & Fro Fam

What a lovely post. I’ve never heard of the term ambivert, but I think that’s what I am! Pretty sure you and I would get along great. Also, I’m very visually oriented, and I love the idea of the golden bubble. I’m going to try that out!

    doniree

    Right?! For so long I was like, “Sometimes people fuel me! Sometimes being alone fuels me!” And then I realized there was a term for those of us in the middle, who seem to work our way in and out of each depending on so many things. As long as we know what it is we need when we need to recharge, we can take care of ourselves :) Good luck with your Golden Bubble!

Mary

Great tips! There’s lots of scary and sad stuff out in the world right now, and we all need to remind ourselves how to take care of our bodies and minds. And even a simple reminder to stay hydrated was a great reminder to me! I’m bad at that!!!

Melissa

Best tips! I laughed at the laser noises. I actually have a client that does that in her head to deal with people at school! Also I can’t wait to talk more about all this!!! I think you’re great!

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