Chemistry

“You know, raising your eyebrows around someone is an indication that you’re attracted to them.”

I didn’t say this at the time that statement was made, but I smiled, knowingly and all, because you know how when in the beginning of dating someone and you play that game, even if in your own head, where you pinpoint the moment when The Shift happened?  Where he or she went from “They’re neat,” to “Oh.  Oh wait.  Oh wait WHAT is that butterfly feeling in my stomach?!”

And I smiled a big knowing grin because I knew he was busted, and he probably didn’t.  Every time I thought back to that moment, the expression I remember on his face was one with raised eyebrows.  I’d then chalked it up to amusement – I am charmingly awkward after all – but in retrospect, I suppose it’s safe to say that it was in fact attraction.

I wonder if I had the same expression.  Probably.

I do remember the moment – ok, again there were two – when that whole “WHOA WHAT IS THAT?”! shift happened.  The first was at a happy hour when conversation about business models and social media and ideas and pomegranate juice just made my head explode in a way that my brain was all like “ohhhh yeahhhhhh“.

The second? Was a DM.  Or a text, I don’t remember.  And just simply said, “So.  Last minute change of plans.  Turns out I’ll make it down there this weekend.”

And while I wouldn’t admit it then, in retrospect?  That made an already incredible week that much better, because I remember being excited about getting to see him at all, and I also remember being proud and excited to introduce and show him off to my friends.

I’m over-glamorizing the whole “moment” thing when I think it’s as simple as connection or chemistry.  You can’t force it, can’t fake it, and when it clicks you just run with it, right?  And you keep running with it because it’s seamless.  Simple.  Natural.  FUN.

The even funnier thing is when you realize your friends told you weeks ago what you just figured out.  Ahem, Grace, ahem.

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