That’s a totally misleading title because, plain and simple? I don’t have one. I don’t play poker because my face hides nothing. If I’m happy, you’ll see it in the creases of my smile. When I’m not, you’ll see it in my furrowed little brows.
I was asked a couple of months ago what my favorite thing about myself was, as well as what I’d most want to change. After a little bit of thought, I decided that my answer would be that it’s really hard for me to fake something – a feeling, a reaction, an opinion. I just don’t do that well. When I lie, I’m absolutely guilty of everything everyone tells you that happens when someone lies. No eye contact, blinking a lot, etc.
I’m an open book, and that’s why I don’t play poker. (That, and the fact that I’d rather spend any amount of disposable income I have on cheese, wine, a plane ticket, or a new dress from Buffalo Exchange).
On the same token, sometimes to protect myself, I wish I had some sort of means of masking my emotions instead of putting them all out there for the world to see. I guess though, in the spirit of learning about and becoming this woman that I am – honest-to-blog openness comes with that territory.
What about you? What’s your FAVORITE thing about yourself and why?
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Doniree Walker is an aspiring yogini, jet-setter, foodie, and story-teller. She's a writer and geek girl by trade, and a lover and a connector by lifestyle, and is currently obsessed with: train travel, single-serving chocolate milk, and brand new notebooks. Oh, and she's also part supergirl. Wanna be friends? 
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OMG, I’m SUCH a terrible liar. I kinda wish I could do it at least a little better. I like how you look at it as a positive thing.
.-= michelle woo´s last blog ..A Juno-inspired wedding =-.
I kind of wish I could lie better too, ha!
I’m a fantastic liar. But i’m also a narcissist and an actress or wait, are they the same?. SOOOOO….it all works out. My favorite thing about me?….i genuinely believe, deep down, that i can do anything.
that includes flying if i felt like it. I can do it all.
I believe you can do anything also
I don’t think I’m a good liar either, though I rarely lie about big things. Just because I’d feel so guilty.
My favorite thing about myself? Oh gosh that’s a hard one. I don’t often think of myself in those terms. I suppose it might be how I believe that somehow everything is going to work out? I remain positive and hopeful which in turn helps with things actually working out, I think. And I generally believe that people are good. Sometimes I am a bit of a blabbermouth though and being too trusting has gotten me into trouble before.
.-= Karen´s last blog ..What is and what could have been =-.
HA! I think we’re kindred spirits. I believe in the good in people and the positive end results and all of that too. Sure, I’ve been disappointed, but more often than not, I’ve been right about it
I think when we project those beliefs, we surround ourselves by people who emulate just that.
I can lie by looking at someone in the eye but then I stammer and my cheeks become red!
I think I can pick myself up pretty quickly after I’m broken. I move on fast. Maybe because I believe in life itself…
.-= The Mercurial Wife´s last blog ..Unwanted Guests =-.
Lol. I have a large number of friends that would LOVE to play poker with me, but I know better. Like you, I have no poker face. Oh well….
I’m the same way! I am such the open book; all of my friends and family can read me so well and I hate it.
But my favorite thing about myself? I am a very ambitious and goal-oriented person. And when I REALLY put my mind to it, I can accomplish anything. =)
My favorite self-trait? You actually have this one, too: the speed at which I can learn new things. If knowledge is power, then we’re running on renewable energy!
And you know what, wearing your heart on your sleeve isn’t a bad thing. Just don’t wear any uncomfortable sleeves and you’re good to go. Take that as you will.
.-= nicopolitan´s last blog ..Hospitality and Hospitals =-.
My favourite thing about me is really similar to yours Doni, I love that I’m relentlessly straight forward and plain speaking. Having gone to a girls school for most of my life I got my fill of double talking, and gossip, and there’s nothing less interesting to me. I like that, to my friends, I’m that person whose word they can really trust because I don’t say things just to placate people.
And I’m thankful that I can have that approach and not be a jerk about it lol
.-= Kyla Roma´s last blog ..Friday is for…{simple happy} =-.
I’m a horrible liar. I get nervous if I’m not telling the truth and I know my face flushes, I stutter and my heart starts racing because WHAT IF THEY’RE ONTO ME. I also firmly believe honesty to be the best policy. And it’s got me in to trouble on a number of occasions, because sometimes the truth isn’t what we want to hear. But I think it’s infinitely more valuable to build relationships on honest-to-God reality than to be a yes man and live through hollow relationships.
.-= Emily Jane´s last blog ..Protected: My Real Self Portrait =-.
My favorite thing about myself is my bluntness; I don’t have time for bullshit so I just try to keep it real. People either love me or hate me for it but I just figure it just helps me weed out the jerks.
.-= Liz´s last blog ..In motion =-.
I never had a poker face, until I got all up in the Management, and they made me start shit-canning people. That’ll learn you a poker face.
My favorite thing about myself is what other people have a hard time with sometimes. My intensity. I don’t love things, I LOVE them. I don’t hate things, I HATE them. I don’t want things, I WANT them. Life in Technicolor- it’s really the only way to live.
Ah, I’m the same way!!! I wear my emotions so completely that it’s impossible to hide anything. And then I’m a blabbermouth so when someone asks why I look as I do, I spill my guts. I’m too honest, too, I guess, ha.
.-= MinD´s last blog ..413 Harris Street, MoTown. =-.
I was just actually talking about this. I CANNOT LIE. I turn red, I giggle…and you can especially see it in my eyes. That’s where I place all of my emotion and people that know me well (or not at all) can read me like a book.
I think my favorite thing about myself is my ability to adapt to change and my ability to learn new things very quickly.
.-= Ashalah´s last blog ..True or False? #2T1LCO =-.
Poker players today ( those on ESPN & Travel Ch.) wear sunglasses, caps, hoods, etc. to hide their non-poker faces. Else, they lose. They are not the riverboat gamblers that “graces” our family tree. These new ‘gamblers’ are all fakes!
Which is why I don’t watch their ‘fake’ poker or take any part in it. I don’t have a poker face. I have a joker face.
I also don’t have a poker face which is why I never lie. Like seriously, never. And even I do lie and can get past the facial expressions, I always end up breaking in the end and telling the truth. It’s a curse and a blessing I suppose.
I totally fail at Poker Face too. But, for a long time, I thought I was good at it. I had a few people set me straight. When I was younger, I did lie occasionally and I was more manipulative, but it always left me feeling so nervous and guilty. I gave it up at some point and life is so much easier. I haven’t reached the point yet where I’m good at verbalizing the way I feel to people, but at least it’s written across my face, so it’s not a total mystery.
I can lie with the best of them. Like ChelseaTalksSmack, I can also do anything, anything at all, and that is my favourite part about me. I might run for President on the Freak Party Ticket along with Mr. Chips in 2012, and if I’m bored, I just might win it. Watch out, strange rumblings all along the Pacific Coast these days, and I just watched a Lebanese woman breast feed a chimpanzee on Floyd’s patio, may you live in weird times, mahalo…
.-= Sal Riley´s last blog ..Inspiring Toes =-.
And here we thought Sal Riley was dead! Viva Salvador!
Nice to hear from you, Sal. Keep Portland under control, eh? And pajambo. Mahalo. Salud.
Methinks that there are times when have have no choice but to lie. However, making it a habit does more harm to us than they are with others. I guess it all goes down to our intentions, if we have to lie, then it must be for a good purpose.
On your parting question, what I like about myself is my ability to learn and accept new ideas and not stubbornly clinging to what I already know.
I’m the SAME WAY when I lie. It’s horrible and anyone can call me out on it. But I think it’s a good thing overall, right? (Of course it is.)
One of my favorite things about myself is that over the past few years, I’ve learned to be flexible with everything. You want to go to dinner in five minutes? Sure, let me run home and change my makeup. Stay late after work? I don’t necessarily want to, but I will. And planning a wedding where there are SO MANY VARIABLES? Sign me up.
Because I totally wasn’t flexible a few years ago, and it’s a nice change. It makes life more spontaneous.
.-= E.P.´s last blog ..That ticking sound =-.
Honestly, be grateful for the fact that you don’t have a poker face. I have a friend who has almost too good a poker face. She’s so good at it that I can never tell if she’s being genuine or being fake.
I wish I was better at being patient with people. In fact, I gave up being annoyed at people for lent. It’s been hard. I get frustrated at people’s idiosyncrasies.
One of my favorite things about myself is that I really strive to be all that I can be. That sounds like I’m in the army or something, but honestly I don’t participate in something unless I put my whole being into it. I like that trait in myself because then I usually do well at my job, at my hobbies, etc.
.-= Gooseberried´s last blog ..Happy Weekend! =-.
I wish people couldnt lie.
I wish that I didn’t always give a damn about things, people, what others think of me.
I’m a passionate, caring person by nature but sometimes the whole giving a damn about others perceptions of me and my life is exhausting. And I wish I could just not care but for some odd reason I do…
I also don’t play poker. Not sure I’d be so good at it considering the only guy who ever taught me how to play taught me how to lose. Of course I didn’t know that at the time
.-= Nora´s last blog ..Weekend Recommendation =-.