Of course, I’m totally fine.
But I will admit that sometimes I find myself in moments where I need to reconnect with a feeling, a time, or a certain person. Something that puts me back in a place where no matter where I am in anything can remind me of who I always have been from the start and how I got to where I am.
In this instance, that something was someone who can look me in the eyes and say, you’re fine or of course you can.
Someone who asks, when all the randomness has been totally blurted out – “Do you feel better? I hope this helped,” and means it.
We all need someone, who when we don’t know how to tell them we need them, we can just throw up a tiny white flag that says, “I surrender. Are you there?” and who responds by letting you know that OF COURSE they are.
They never weren’t.
Someone who has this conversation with you, in all its simplicity, loyalty, and comfort:
Me: Holler?
Him: What’s up?
Me: You anywhere near the city?
Him: No, I’m at work for another hour – you ok?
Me: Absolutely, just need to get a little grounded. Halfway between a nervous breakdown and a turning point? Ha.
Him: I’ll call you as soon as I leave.
And who calls when they’re done and doesn’t even talk you through it, but listens intently as YOU talk yourself through it.
You talk yourself through it.
Because you had the answers all along. Even if you don’t even know how to say them.
I talked myself through it.
And this friend? Held my hand so I wouldn’t lose my balance along the way.
I’m blessed, y’all.
I'm Doniree. I live in Portland, Oregon where I practice yoga, obsess about the local farmers' markets and vineyards, and work from home or one of my many favorite coffee shops. I also 
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Hey I will be there around nine, so stick around after dinner!
That's what mothers are for…..that's what we do. Can I help? hold your hand? give you a hug? a chocolate chip cookie?
Stick around at Mir's tonight and we'll catch up!
You gotta love friends who can do that for you. Or family.Or high-class call girls.
Hey. Cheap whores are people too.
I don't trust him. I think it might be a trick.
You are blessed. Hope to see you at M&J's tonight.Pops
Hey I will be there around nine, so stick around after dinner!–Doniree Walkerhttp://doniree.com | @donireevia iPhone
That's what mothers are for…..that's what we do. Can I help? hold your hand? give you a hug? a chocolate chip cookie?
why so late?
Stick around at Mir's tonight and we'll catch up!
You gotta love friends who can do that for you. Or family.Or high-class call girls.
Yes! We all need those people! So glad you have that special someone to lean on in tough times. But keep in mind you are a strong girl too!
And you totally rock.Are you going to the Lebowski thing this weekend? So jealous if you are!
Ah, I don't think I'll make it! How funny would that be though?
one of the best things in life is finding the answers on your own… when you have someone to hold your hand while you do it.
It's so great to be able to talk yourself through a rough patch. Even better? Having a friend right there to listen.
I don't trust him. I think it might be a trick.
You are blessed. Hope to see you at M&J's tonight.
Pops
We all do need someone to help keep us grounded. You and your friend seem to be very in sync with each other. :]
why so late?
You really are blessed- and it sounds like that friend is someone you should definitely bake cookies for soon =)
Hey. Cheap whores are people too.
It's so great to be able to talk yourself through a rough patch. Even better? Having a friend right there to listen.
Yes! We all need those people! So glad you have that special someone to lean on in tough times. But keep in mind you are a strong girl too!
And you totally rock.Are you going to the Lebowski thing this weekend? So jealous if you are!
I love friends who know when to step in and when to shut up and listen. Beautiful post!
Ah, I don't think I'll make it! How funny would that be though?
Thank you! And you summed it up so well – sometimes we need advice,sometimes we just need to hear ourselves thing.Love it!
I want this. I've been really upset lately because a good friend has, for one reason or another, given me an extremely cold shoulder and I miss that connection we had. I'm trying to focus less on that and be grateful for the amazing friends I have. But sometimes I'd just really love to collapse and vent and know that whoever is listening is really listening. I just don't feel comfortable enough with anyone to be that vulnerable though.
You really are blessed- and it sounds like that friend is someone you should definitely bake cookies for soon =)
It's wonderful to have great friends such as those. You keep them in your life as long as you can.
I love friends who know when to step in and when to shut up and listen. Beautiful post!
Thank you! And you summed it up so well – sometimes we need advice,
sometimes we just need to hear ourselves thing.
Love it!
I want this. I've been really upset lately because a good friend has, for one reason or another, given me an extremely cold shoulder and I miss that connection we had. I'm trying to focus less on that and be grateful for the amazing friends I have. But sometimes I'd just really love to collapse and vent and know that whoever is listening is really listening. I just don't feel comfortable enough with anyone to be that vulnerable though.
you're so right- we all need a friend or few like this.
glad you're doing okay!
Yes, I love friends like this. I need more of them, in fact
I totally understand, and I feel pretty fortunate that I have a couple of people that go so far back with me that they get the changes I've been through in the last 10 years, get my quirks, and have learned to read when I'm venting and need advice or when I'm just overheating and need to cool off.It's tough, also, when friendships change. Especially the ones that once held such deep connections. I hope everything works out, doll.
i think we all need friends like this around. love it.
Yes, I love friends like this. I need more of them, in fact
I totally understand, and I feel pretty fortunate that I have a couple of people that go so far back with me that they get the changes I've been through in the last 10 years, get my quirks, and have learned to read when I'm venting and need advice or when I'm just overheating and need to cool off.
It's tough, also, when friendships change. Especially the ones that once held such deep connections. I hope everything works out, doll.
i think we all need friends like this around. love it.
So sweet! Those types of friends are the best.
That is definitely a true friend that everyone deserves to have!
So sweet! Those types of friends are the best.
That is definitely a true friend that everyone deserves to have!
I love it when friends can just be there to listen. Sometimes you don't want or need advice, just someone to let you talk yourself through it.
I love it when friends can just be there to listen. Sometimes you don't want or need advice, just someone to let you talk yourself through it.
THAT is amazing. You are very lucky!
Ahh… I love those friends.
aww.. i totally have a friend like that too. all i have to do is send him a text that simply says “SOS” and he'll call or text or somehow get in contact with me in like 2mins.
love those friends!
THAT is amazing. You are very lucky!
Ahh… I love those friends.
Thank goodness for these kinds of people. If I'm not mistaken, I believe this is actually a mutant superpower. Just a guess.
aww.. i totally have a friend like that too. all i have to do is send him a text that simply says “SOS” and he'll call or text or somehow get in contact with me in like 2mins.
love those friends!
Thank goodness for these kinds of people. If I'm not mistaken, I believe this is actually a mutant superpower. Just a guess.
I am so good at figuring out I have a problem and then doing exactly that: Talking myself through it. It's a great feeling to know you possess that capability but it's even greater to know that you have someone who will listen & talk when need be. You're an amazing woman, you know that?
I am so good at figuring out I have a problem and then doing exactly that: Talking myself through it. It's a great feeling to know you possess that capability but it's even greater to know that you have someone who will listen & talk when need be. You're an amazing woman, you know that?
Yeah, I've more than once been IN a nervous breakdown, and it's been amazing to have someone there to just BE there, not saying anything, not giving ideas but just being THERE.
Yeah, I've more than once been IN a nervous breakdown, and it's been amazing to have someone there to just BE there, not saying anything, not giving ideas but just being THERE.
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